Friday, January 31, 2020

Don't limit your challenges challenge your limits.

Have you been busy working on your New Year Resolutions?

…or have you resolved in giving up and never ever going to make a New Year’s resolution ever again…?

If the latter, you’re not alone. So many people get demoralized when, year after year, they make resolutions that they keep for only a few weeks or maybe even just a few days.

Why is this? After all, we all have the best intentions and the timing (new year, new start) couldn’t be better. The problem may lie in the fact that we place a huge amount of pressure on ourselves. During the last week of December and the first week of January, all you hear is, “What are your New Year’s resolutions?” “What are you going to work on this year?”

And the focus is on the “what” not the “how.” When you are more concerned with the goal you set than on the specifics of how you are going to accomplish it, or even whether it is realistic and achievable, you can set yourself up for failure.

So, if you resolve to set successful New Year resolutions, read on. Let’s focus on how, this month, you can set yourself up for a year of achievement!

New Year Resolution Mistakes

There are two common mistakes that people tend to make before they even start to make their New Year resolutions: They think about what they “should” do, rather than what they really want to do. And worse, they think about what they should stop doing, rather than what they actually want to achieve. “What should I do this year?” “What should I stop doing?”, “What do other people suggest I should work on?”

To be successful at any change, you need to really want it. Unless you take time to consider what it is you really want (rather than what you should do or should stop doing) you will invariably end up making a resolution to which you are not entirely committed.

Without commitment, you aren’t motivated and after the first setbacks or obstacles, you may quit. So, the first rule of New Year Resolutions is to only make ones that you are committed to. Don’t make a resolution simply because it is “the thing to do”, or because someone has told you that you should.

The irony of it is that New Year’s resolutions have the potential to be very powerful because they are such a well-recognized practice. Everyone knows that everyone else is setting resolutions. And what a great mutual support network that can provide! This external motivation and support, along with your internal motivation – the desire to succeed –is what can make the difference between success and failure.

Three Rules for New Year’s Resolutions

These easy to follow rules for New Year’s Resolutions will help set you up for success right from the start. Inevitably you will come up against challenges and roadblocks along the way; however, by planning ahead and following these rules, you will be better placed to negotiate these easily, rather than stumble and quit.

Rule 1: Commit to Your Resolution

Successful resolutions start with a strong commitment to making a change. To succeed, you must believe that you can accomplish what you set out to and that belief is bolstered by the unwavering support you give yourself.

Choose resolutions that you really want to achieve –and make them positive;

Announce your resolution to everyone around you –they will help hold you accountable;

Develop a ceremony to mark the beginning of your commitment – this makes it more “real” and special for you;

Don’t leave your choice of resolution to the last minute – take time to think about your goals. If you don’t, you risk reacting to your current environment and missing the big picture;

Questions to ask yourself to determine if you can take ownership of your resolution include:

Is this resolution my idea or someone else’s?

Does this resolution motivate and invigorate me?

Is this resolution sit comfortably with other factors in my life such as my values and long-term plans?

Remember that there’s no reason why your New Year’s resolution should take all year to achieve.

Tip: Imagery is a powerful technique to help you own and commit to your goals or resolutions. Try picturing yourself having attained your goal. How do you feel? How do you look? Where you are, what are you doing? How do others react to you? By visualizing yourself in the position you desire, you can bolster your belief that you can do it and strengthen your motivation.

Rule 2: Be Realistic

The key to achieving goals is continued motivation.

If you set the bar too high, you risk failing. Consistently failing at something is profoundly de-motivating (It’s no wonder that after a few dismal attempts some people abandon the idea of New Year’s resolutions altogether!)

Consider carefully before setting the same resolution you set last year. If it didn’t work then, you need to make sure there is good reason to believe you can achieve it this year. What has changed? Do you have more commitment to make it work? (Be careful, or else you will end up with a repeat performance, and another failed resolution);

Aim lower, rather than too high – aim for something that is challenging but that you have a good chance of accomplishing. If there is any doubt, err on the side of caution and expand your goal later if you still want to keep improving; and Don’t bite off more than you can chew. There is no reason to set more than one or two resolutions. Any more than that and you divide your focus and energy and lessen your chances of success in any area.

Rule 3 – Write It Down

A simple but powerful technique for making your goal real is to put your resolution into writing. There is something inside us that creates more commitment and drive when we take the time to do this. Consider writing it down on pieces of card and keeping it where you’ll see it.

Now you are a great position to push beyond your limits and achieve your biggest goals.

The picture below is of my daughter and her university friends who have already achieved there short term goal for 2020

Congratulations to the Groningen Giants Cheerleaders after there success in the NK Cheerleading Prelims.

♫♪♫♪♫♪ We are proud of you, say we are proud of you! ♫♪♫♪♫♪ ♫♪♫♪♫♪ We are proud of you, say we are proud of you! ♫♪♫♪♫♪


Tuesday, December 31, 2019

2020 > Leap Year > Olympic Year > Your Year > Are you Ready?

‘Your Date with Destiny’

What's your goal, What are you going to finally tick off that bucket list in 2020?

Blueprints 4 Sucess can help you to turn your dreams into reality

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.

Final Note: I can actually give you a solid recent example of the process and the results. The step by step process was actually used to create this book.

Make no mistake, it really is a Blueprint 4 Success.

My book is now available from the


Wednesday, November 20, 2019


Well with the publication on my book that's the last of my goals all done and dusted for this year.

How are you doing? Need any help?

I absolutely know this book can work for you. Why. Because it has already worked for thousands of people just like you in the past and it will continue to work for thousands of other people in the future.

You can now purchase your own personal copy of Blueprint 4 Success here

Success and happiness are not accidents that just happen to some people and not others - they are predictable results created by deliberate ways of thinking and acting, Within the pages of Blueprints 4 Success you will very quickly discover a proven trusted formula that is used by top-level athletes, successful business-people and achievers in all fields. They give you long-term vision and short-term motivation. They focus your acquisition of knowledge and help you to organize your resources so that you can take full advantage of everyday opportunities. And the best part is it is all very user-friendly to apply.

Think of it as not needing to know everything about electricity to turn the light on. You just need to learn to flick the switch.


Stephen Drake is a British Expat now living in the Hague area of the Netherlands He believes that when your biggest asset is your people around you it pays to investigate what factors make them the best they can be.

His journey as a training specialist and consultant has certainly evolved from the early days of being brought in almost as a ‘last resort’ - to work with teams and groups who were ‘resistant’ to change and traditional training methods – now he is more often thought of as a first choice when it comes to
‘leading-edge’ experiential events that have seen him collect several awards of recognition for his contribution to training & personal development, as well as appearing on local radio and T.V. and contributing to industry press and publications.

He now shares this success through public speaking at management conferences and industry seminars and exhibitions.

Over the last 20 years, his range of clients span almost the entire commercial spectrum from international finance to pharmaceutical giants and recruitment specialists to real estate developers and one of the worlds biggest producers of aluminum

Steve also has a Martial arts background. While he admits his quest in Karate was more about winning tournaments than learning the art and discipline, his drive still led him to join the Self Defense Company and recently celebrated 10 years of teaching Self Defense Company Programs with clients such as the British Government & United Arab Emirates Government.

Today his recent workshops such as The Power of One & Miracle have helped many individuals, like you, realize the confidence and potential they didn't know they had using martial arts disciplines with a spectrum of exercises on Visualization, Transformation Linguistics, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Turning Fear into Power.

So with the new year 2020 almost upon us where would YOU like your staff feeling motivated, excited and renewed? ……… apart from when they are at work, of course.

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Monday, August 26, 2019

Nobody on the road, Nobody on the beach, I feel it in the air .....

The summer's out of reach

Today was a public holiday in the UK, known as bank holiday Monday and a day off work for some people (not all) and that's it now until CHRISTMAS.

So how does knowing that make you feel?

It's good to ask yourself how you are feeling (emotional state) because that is the first step in the framework for creating change, How you look at a situation influences what happens around you. Ask yourself what's my focus? Am I focusing on something I want or don't want?

Then ask yourself what do I want Vs what do I really want.

Am I seeing the opportunities or am I only seeing the obstacles, am I focusing on the problem or the solution.

The next 90 days are crucial to staying focused on those goals you set at the start of the year, hopefully, the short term goals are done and dusted, the midterm goals are now your short term goals and you need to focus on the final weeks and months of your midterm and long term goals.

We need to focus on what needs to happen and focus on where you want to go. The summer holidays are over and you now need to switch your focus to what you want to achieve in for the rest of 2019.

No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up.


1. See problems as opportunities
2. Tell negative people it’s really time for you to go
3. Eliminate limiting beliefs from your life
4. Refuse yourself permission to settle for anything less than you can really be
5. Maintain an ALL IN I can-do mindset

The above is a simple strategy, don't dismiss it because of its simplicity.

You can solve very big problems with very small actions. Ask yourself what is the smallest action I could do right now to start and make a big difference to what I want in the future.

Time to kick on with the final phase. See you all in 90 days.

Tuesday, July 16, 2019

Staying Motivated

Are you still on track?

It's the time of year where it is easy to get knocked off course a little, sunshine, vacations, school holidays all add to a change of everyday routines so don't forget to keep asking those same three questions at the end of each day.

1) Did my actions today take me closer to achieving my goal or further away?

2)What was the one positive thing I noticed today?

3)What am I looking forward to tomorrow?

Staying motivated can be just as hard as reaching a goal itself, maybe it is time for a new strategy or a new way of thinking!

What are they doing now, what’s not being done and what could they be doing: these are the basic questions I ask myself every time when I look at a situation. These questions are my “queue” to find out what it is that can be done better, easier and smarter creating measurable progress within a reasonable timespan

Please remember only you and you alone can change your current situation. Don't blame it on anything or anyone.

Don't rely on someones else's motivation. If someone pushes you to try a certain motivational strategy, make sure it both fits into your plan and that it is going to work for you also. Just because your friend is doing the newest exercise craze to hit this months health & fitness magazine and wants you to do it with them, doesn’t mean that it is doing to be ideal and motivating for you. One of the most common things I see is that people try to make changes without really thinking about their reason why.

We’re so easily influenced by the friends, family and more commonly what's in the media, and we get so caught up in what other people are doing, that we can often end up trying to become second rate versions of someone else, rather than just being us!

Using someone else motivation simply doesn't work. Find what works for you and use that as your motivation!

Staying focused on what you want is necessary to stay on track. It’s also important not to be too hard on ourselves when we fall behind or get off-track. Please don't go beating yourself up over it or, even worse, giving up entirely – take a breather and remember why you started in the first place.


Thursday, May 23, 2019

Knockout Workout

I have never been a fan of the treadmill, rowing machine or stationary bike but Boxing 🥊 Training is something I really enjoy doing, it’s a great “Stress Buster”

I have recently started working out in a program known as 'Funxtion Rumble' it is very fast-paced with jabs hooks, uppercuts, and swoops that engage the shoulders, back, arms, obliques, core, and abdomen.

Then the footwork is great for your legs and calves. These activities certainly help with my weight loss journey because you use your entire body and it burns an insane amount of calories.

Other exercises included in this routine is using a jump rope commonly used for skipping, this one of the classic boxing exercises, because it helps build a lean, strong body, aids in coordination, agility, and footwork, and boosts endurance like nearly no other exercise does.

Burpees are pretty much the best exercise ever, and will increase your strength and endurance like no other exercise will and punching a punching bag for 30 seconds between each set takes burpees to another level.

All in all, if I am totally honest it's all over far too quickly, but as the saying goes 'Time flys when your having fun'

There is plenty of these type of group exercise classes around,
Boxercise and BoxFit are two others that I can highly recommend.

You might not be able to box, but after a couple of months you will soon look like you could.

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

99.8 and feeling Great.

Some goals are more personal than others.

Just a few days before my 60th Birthday I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and the doctor told me that I have been walking around with this for some time. The good news is that it is reversible, but I needed to lose weight (27Ks) so I immediately set a health goal entitled the 60-day challenge

I knew i had to create some better health habits through better diet and getting back into exercise, and so 60 days is a good chunk of time to springboard myself into it.

My start date was the 1st of February and I weighed in at 115Kgs

Today was the end of my 60-day challenge and I now weigh 99.8Kgs.

I Still, a fair way to go, but my overall target has been reassessed, The Doctors say if I could get under 91 KGs I would be in what they call recessive, and they will see me again in June. I'm on it. Phase two starts now,

This phase two is not going to be as brutal and with the better weather coming eating choices will be much better. To be honest, I am very positive and somewhat motivated by the whole thing, if I can lose half as much in the next 3 month that I have in the last two I will be over the moon.

Thursday, March 21, 2019

Lets do this

By now you should be ready to review your short term goals, are you on track or off track? simple question, simple answer. One of my all-time favorite quotes is from the late Jim Rohn.

“If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.” —Jim Rohn.

I don't know about you but I am ready to move into phase two, I have achieved so much in the last 60 days I'm ready to go through the gears and spring into summer (sorry for the pun)

If your also ready fasten your seatbelt and read on:

Step 1: Make a decision.

The power to decide and understand that you will have to do something is one of the most powerful decisions in the universe. The process of deciding that you will be a success, have a great career, strong relationship with the company or certain type of business will cause you to move forward towards your goal.

Most people never decide what they truly want, those are the ones you see bumbling around from day to day, stumbling into week to week, crashing into month to month, and before they know it, then there goes another year in which they have achieved nothing or very little. The good news is we have a choice, I am giving you the opportunity make a conscious decision today, one that will cause your mind to diligently search and create the positive reality that you have chosen.

Step 2: Creating a schedule.

Your schedule should encompass your whole life. Your business and personal life need to be factored in to create balance. I have seen far too many people sacrifice their family to achieve a production or commission goal. When they finally reach their goal, they have no one to share it with or they realize what little importance that goal had compared to their family. I am of course highly qualified to speak from personal experience, and it is a very hollow feeling.

The schedule should encompass the "time block" system. By time blocking I mean to schedule a specific time for each daily activity. Schedule time to negotiate contracts, return phone calls, and attend meetings. The better you "time block" the more effective you will be. The more that you adhere to the schedule the more success you will have overall. Remember to allow for a little "play time" or "Time Out." You will need some time to relax and decompress. This time for relaxing will enable you to stay focused and sharp during the "up time." Give yourself a 15-minute "time out" every two to three hours. This should be sufficient to break the tension or catch up so that you are able to stay focused and "time blocked."

Step 3: Value of Time.

To decrease your time worked and increase your production, you must know and understand the value of your time. Anyone can make more money if they trade more time for it. Even the road digger can do that. He merely needs to work overtime. The secret is to trade less time for more income.

People who understand the value of time trade less and less time for more and more income. You must first know the value of your time today. What are you worth per hour? Do you know? If you do not, it is a simple equation. Determine your gross salary plus any commission for last year and divide it by the total hours you worked. The total would be your hourly rate or...

Now if you want a more accurate figure of what you are worth per hour, subtract your business expenses for last year from your gross salary for last year. Divide that figure by the total hours you worked. Now, look at your value per hour. Most people don't have the courage to really look at this number, let me tell you a great fact of life here, time is far more important than money, the fact is you can always find a way to get more money, you can’t get any more time.

People who know the value of time in their life create rewarding lives. People who do not know have a miserable existence because they do not understand the importance of time.

Let me give you an example:

If you had a bank that credited your account each morning with £86,000 — that carried over no balance from day to day — that allowed you to keep no cash in your account... and every evening canceled whatever part of the amount you had failed to use during the day — what would you do? Draw out every single penny, of course! Well, you do have such a bank—its name is 'time.' Every morning it credits you with 86,000 seconds... every night it rules off as lost whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purposes. It carries no balance... It allows no overdrafts. Each day it opens a new account for you. If you fail to use the day's deposit, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against tomorrow. You must live in the present on today's deposit.

If you and I make the most of our time, it will be because we understand the value of each and every second. We will learn how to spend our time wisely.

Step 4: Invest your time in high payoff activities.

You must invest your time and define what the high payoff activities are for you. Once you have defined the activities, you need the discipline to do them daily. These are the only activities you can do to pay yourself well. You need to also understand that these activities will change as your hourly value increases.

You must invest the time to define what the high payoff activities are for you.

Step 5: Developing a philosophy.

By philosophy, I mean guidelines for doing business both personally and professionally. If you understand your value per hour and your average salary check, you can determine the type of people you are willing to work with.

You need to understand you were not put on this earth to help everyone. There are people you cannot help. This fact does not make them or us bad people or you a bad person. It just makes you a business person who expects a reasonable profit for the amount of time invested. You must define clearly your world of business. This definition will enable you to better select the people to work with. We have all selected the wrong people. We have spent large amounts of time and money working with people we should not have and felt awful afterward. In some instances, we were never paid or appreciated for our efforts.

You will feel much better turning them down before you invest your time, energy, and money in a losing cause. By understanding your "core" philosophy, you will be able to seek out the clients who meet your criteria rather than finding those that do not. By having this philosophy, you will generally find the clients you are looking for. You will also be able to quickly dispense of those clients who do not meet your standard operating procedures.

Step 6: Understand your business.

Know what generates your business. What are the top three income producing activities that you do? Where do you spend your time daily? Compare those two answers and look at what you are worth per hour. Do only those activities that earn you the highest return the bulk of your day. I will give you a hint; high payoff activities are not from sitting around in the office, a desk is a very dangerous place in which to view business in the modern world.

Step 7: Focus

Recently I was reflecting on what it took to be successful. My mind recalled a recent article, called physically present but psychologically absent. It goes on to say that 4 out of every five employees do not consider themselves engaged in work. This is estimated to cost the British economy 46 billion pounds a year*.

Life gives you many opportunities to ponder, to evaluate your progress and see the results of your labor. This is one of those moments, with the first quarter of the year point coming up, to evaluate, ponder, or replay the tape. I was recently reflecting on the question, “What is the one characteristic that makes someone successful?” It was one of those moments that you struggle to boil all of your knowledge down into one distilled thought; to remove all the dross of your thoughts to one true nugget of incredible value to all who come in contact with it. My mind zeroed in on the concept of how our effort dictates our reward in life, our effort being our work or what we do. In life, we create our reward, whether it is financial or relational, by what we do. It’s not based on intent or what we plan to do but, ultimately, what we actually do.

While pondering, I realized that we do many things and that some of the things we do have more value than others. We can often select the wrong thing to do and complete, thereby creating a lot of effort with very little results. Ultimately, the results are the name of the game. We can easily get faked out with regard to what has the most important value. The key characteristic of successful people is the skill and ability to focus intensely on their most important task and do it to completion with excellence before moving on to the next task. If you work at mastering this one skill, or ability, it will transform your life. This skill will also transform your relationships in your life. Your career will explode to new heights. There will be no limits to the exceptional life that you can create. There is an ancient saying, “Don’t put all of your eggs into one basket.” My Mom would use that old axiom quite a bit when I was growing up. She would also say to me, “You must keep your options open.” Today I realize that these sayings are dated and inappropriate to one who seeks success. You must put your focus and effort into the “one basket.” To zero in on the one task, or most important task, that must be done right now. To single-mindedly do what will have the biggest impact and take it to completion is essential to success. What is the one basket that you need to work on right now? What is the one thing every day that will create the biggest impact on your business? Only then, when it is done, can you look for another “basket” to work on.

All too often we have ten to fifteen baskets open with our hands, efforts, and focus going into all of them at once. We can often move them along but never get them done and completed and then moved off our agenda. The skill to select the most important task right now and take it to completion is the difference between massive success and failure.

So, I ask again, what is your one basket right now? What is the one task or activity that you need laser-minded focus on to complete? What must be done and completed today? What can’t wait and will bring you the biggest return? Set some time aside to do it now. Then, before you leave today, select the one thing to focus on for tomorrow. Prepare your day for tomorrow before you leave today. Create the order of how tomorrow will unfold in the calmness of today. Select the one thing you will focus on right now. Then, resolve to not quit until it’s done! This one skill will enable you to craft the life that you desire. Don’t wait to start learning the skill, start today!

Step 8 Priority Focus

Let me share an example. The Rolling Stones are one of the most prolific and enduring bands in history, to date their career history has spanned over 56 years, and they are still performing to sold-out stadiums all over the world, you may not be a true fan of their music, but it is hard to deny their success.

Let’s go behind the scenes just before their concert begins… The stage is set, it took over two hundred people to build this mammoth structure several stories tall and half the length of a football field. A convoy of more than twenty trailers was

required to haul it from the last location. Two private planes jet the key people, including the band, between cities. It’s a huge operation; it’s a fact that the last tour earned more than $80 million profit, so it is obviously well worth the effort!

A limousine pulls up backstage. The four band members step out and wait expectantly for their cue call. Seventy thousand people erupt into a deafening roar when the band hit the stage, for the next two hour they perform brilliantly, sending their fans home happy and satisfied and after the final encore they wave goodbye and leave the stage, step back into the limousine and exit the stadium.

They are masters at applying the habit of Priority Focus. That means they only do the things they are brilliant at – recording and performing on stage – period.

Notice this, they don’t get involved in hauling equipment, setting up the stage, or hundreds of other tasks that need to be performed efficiently to make the tour a smooth operation, and ultimately profitable. Other skilled people look after the details. The Rolling Stones simply concentrate on what they do best – singing and performing, they leave the other skilled people to complete the operation. Do you have the skills and the systems to help run your business this way? What would your production look like if you did? How balanced would our life’s be with this type of system?

There’s a great message here for you, and that is when you focus most of your time and energy doing the things you are truly brilliant at, you eventually reap big rewards

There are more people who truly need your services than there is who need the Rolling Stones. You have a bigger market to sell your service in today than the Rolling Stones have. The question is whether you are truly taking advantage of it and preparing yourself to win.

Abe Lincoln said, “If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I’d spend the first four hours sharpening the axe.” He would spend two-thirds of his time improving the tools that make him effective at work. What would your business look like if you spent time sharpening your axe?

What do we normally do? We start right in trying to chop down the tree. We don’t evaluate how best to chop down the tree. We just start chopping and hope that the tree will eventually fall. We keep swinging the axe until the sweat is pouring down before we evaluate if this is the best approach.

Most of us work to make progress in our life. By working hard, we make good time. But we are often making good time in the opposite direction from our desires in life. The problem is that we don’t know where we are going. Many of us have not clearly defined what we want. We also haven’t spent the time to sharpen our skills so that our efforts can produce much fruit.

Many leaders talk about being efficient. When your efficiency increases, they say, you have won the game. It is true that there is value in increasing your efficiency. Efficiency is great, as long as we are effective as well. But being highly effective is more important than being highly efficient.

You must spend the time to focus on being effective, to “sharpen the axe.” What is your axe in your business? Which tools do you need to spend time sharpening in order to be more effective? Most of us have quite a few things that we need to sharpen in our business. Select one thing that really needs your attention today. Don’t wait until tomorrow -- do it now. Then work, focus and improve that one area, even if only for 30 minutes a day, to sharpen your axe. You will be amazed at the ease with which you can fell the big trees of life.

Step 9: Create Strong Systems.

Systems enable business people to leverage themselves while still servicing their clients and prospects. You need to develop systems that create the desired result without your involvement. The reason why McDonald's is so popular is not the good food, it is because of the consistency. Whether you go into a McDonalds in Dubai, Las Vegas in the States or Sha Tin, in Hong Kong the fries will be the same. They have developed their systems and procedures that allow them to sell billions of fries with the same effort and outcome every time.

As leaders you do not have to be mechanical like McDonald's, but you do need effective systems.

STEP 10: Delegation.

You need to delegate the low payoff tasks that need to be completed to other staff members. You need to teach and train your support staff to replace you in certain functions. You need to monitor their progress with praise. And finally, you need to get out of the way and let them do it.

The last step is the most difficult step for most leaders. They hire support assistants then never turn over ownership of the tasks to the assistant. You need to be able to relinquish control. They are going to fall down and bump their knee. They will ruin some deals and make some clients angry. But you have made mistakes, why wouldn't they make similar mistakes?

Let me give you an example: your child is learning to walk. How many times do you let him fall down before you say that is enough? You are done trying to walk. If you say enough, he will have to crawl the rest of his life since he will never learn to walk. However, you would not do that; you would help him until he is able to walk all over the room. You need to let your staff fall down and get banged up.

Don't shelter them from the storm, but do not create a hurricane in your office either.

Final Note –

If you have enjoyed reading this post from my blog, promise me that you will share what you have learned today with others, if you can do that you will have demonstrated that you are indeed a true LEADER.

The season of spring is a time for new beginnings and right now I'm buzzing, let's do this.

Thursday, February 14, 2019

I want to share something really special with you today.

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of Coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the Jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes. The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the Important things---Your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else---the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Be forgiving of others. Remember that no one is perfect.

Do not expect perfection of yourself or others. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your loved one out to lunch. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the garden.

Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled and said, "I'm glad you asked."

The coffee just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

Please share this with someone you care about.. I JUST DID

Thursday, January 31, 2019

So hows it going?


It's been several weeks since I published the goal setting steps and thought I would drop by and see how everyone is getting along.

Question one is are you still on track> Does your daily actions take you nearer your goal or are you starting to drift off course?

Have a look at the cycle of success above

For those of you who require a little extra boost, I have something very special for you.

DNA – Decision / Navigation / Action

This very simple exercise is based on the story called A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens.

In the story Mr. Ebenezer Scrooge was visited by the ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Future, they came to challenge certain beliefs and attitudes that where having a serious impact on Mr. Scrooge and the people around him.

Use this powerful technique to visit your very own ghosts by doing the following step by step exercise.

First recognize now that there is nothing you can do to change the past, just except all that has happened in your life without regret, judgment or blame. Then realize that even though you’re past thoughts and actions have had a certain influence on who you are today, THE FUTURE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE THE SAME AS THE PAST.

Now close your eyes and take a moment to think about the present. Consider the beliefs which could be limiting you from realizing your fullest mental potential.

For example: Consider you may be holding onto a belief such as you have a bad memory, and the older you become the worse it will get, there is no use trying to improve it so why bother, facts just slip your mind and that’s the way it has always been so you except your forgetful and it is just the way you are.

Now as you feel the weight of this negative self-talk reinforcing these limiting beliefs about your mental capacity, ask yourself:

How much has this type of self-talk already cost me in my life? What have I lost and missed out on as a result of these beliefs? In how many ways have I cheated myself and others around me because of my limiting beliefs? What unpleasant emotions do I experience on a daily basis as a direct result of these statements I constantly make to myself (and those around me)? How many things have I not even attempted in my life as a result of these beliefs?

Feeling the full weight of the consequences of holding on to this type of self-talk, I now want you to ask yourself WHAT THESE BELIEFS WILL COST ME IN THE FUTURE.

Now mentally take a step into the future (just as Mr. Scrooge did) and visualize the effects of another whole year telling yourself “I have the worst memory” Think of the challenges you wont attempt, all the people you will shy away from and getting to know, all the stimulation your brain will miss by not trying to take on new challenges. Now consider the cost, the burden of these beliefs affecting your life for another FIVE YEARS. Drag the consequences of your self-limiting beliefs with you five years into the future and ask yourself.

How much more will in cost me in the next five years if I continue to uphold these negative beliefs about my minds limited capability and potential? How many regrets will I have if I don’t change my self-talk? What will I have missed out on? What will I have given up? What will happen to my career in the next five years if I hold on to these beliefs? How will this affect my relationships? My health? What will my children think of me? What kind of role model will I turn out to be?

In your mind I want you to step forward ten years into the future, See, Hear and Feel what life is like for you ten years from now if you don’t change your self-talk or limiting beliefs!

Ask Yourself:

When I look in the mirror ten years from now, how much heavier do you feel as a direct result of these limiting beliefs? How bad do I feel about myself? What are some of the things I haven’t accomplished by not giving up these beliefs?

Now imagine yourself twenty years from now. What profound effect will twenty years of self-talk programming these beliefs into your master computer have had on your life? What will have happened by then? Defeat, failure, disillusionment, despair? Ask yourself now.

How much have I missed out on? How much more could I have accomplished if I had only changed my self-talk twenty years ago? Has my life been an example or has it been a warning to others? Is that what I want?


THE GOOD NEWS IS… You can open your eyes … IT IS STILL THE PRESENT! You haven’t reaped the disastrous rewards of twenty years of negative SELF-TALK.

Its Christmas morning. There is plenty to do. As you commit yourself to a new outcome NOW, YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO DETERMINE YOUR OWN DESTINY.


“I have a great mind”

“I have excellent powers of retention”

”I enjoy mental challenges and reaping the rewards”

“I am building my brain power and improving my brain potential day by day”

“I am meeting more people, remembering their names and enjoying the experience”

“I am doing all I can to develop my mental strength and to condition my memory and continuously improve in all areas of my life”

As you consider the future, answer these questions for yourself.

How much more will I have gained by living my life with these new beliefs? How much more will I have been able to learn, grow, know and accomplish as a direct result of this new self-talk? What has been the true benefit of these new beliefs to my children as they look at me as a model of excellence? How has that changed our lives? How grateful, happy, proud do I feel about having cared enough to change those useless, old fashioned beliefs into productive, empowering new beliefs and create the DESTINY I so richly deserve.

I want to end this exercise with a great self-talk statement to remind you about this important principle:

“Simply by making the choice to watch what I say when I talk to myself, the beliefs I hold will instantly improve and my future will be dramatically influenced”